sharing experience

Many couples find it a comfort to be in contact with people in the same situation. There are various ways of contacting others. Sometimes this may happen accidentally if, for example, you get on well with fellow patients in the waiting-room. You may even feel so much in common that you exchange phone numbers.

Contact with others in the same situation can be very useful and avoid you feeling emotionally isolated. You can take hope from the stories of other couples who have (finally) had a child and consolation and support from those who understand what you are going through. There are however a couple of pitfalls that you should be aware of. It is important for you to realise that every couple is in a unique situation and no one can (or should) predict how your situation will turn out. Other couples can only speak from their own experience. The danger is that they may transfer their own frustrations and disappointments to you, discouraging you unnecessarily.

Moreover, couples that have successfully had a child also enter another phase of their lives, and may want to move on. These couples sometimes find it difficult to share this happy experience with others in the situation who have not yet had this luck.

Everyone handles their disappointment or happiness in their own way and you can best judge whether you feel comfortable with these contacts.